Lesson With Your Words

Hi friends,

There's something about February that makes me a little bit more outgoing than usual. I tend to reach out to old friends and get myself updated with their affairs. I see it as a healthy way to reconnect with old acquaintances and maybe lit up the old friendship flame.

However, what I may think is good, may not actually be the best case to others. 

So today I reached out to an old friend and figured that the best way to immediately crack the ice again was through humor. And what better way to go at it than by going full on satire and sprinkle some sarcasm at it? I figured that throwing around some inner-circle-jokes like the old days would definitely spur up the old friendship flames. But immediately after that, I can sense a huge push back and I regret my words scornfully.

As I dig deeper into the reason for this, I found out that I had essentially verbally abused his passion. I'm pretty sure that things will never be the same again.

And here I thought that the best way to ignite a conversation is to treat them as your bestfriend. I realized that this is totally on me and I must make truce. I also need to reconsider my definition of 'the best way to interact with my bestfriends'. But as of current, this feeling of having done wronged to someone is very unpleasant. I feel like melting away like Rimuru Tempest and hide under a rock.

Moral of the story, no matter how close you think you feel with someone - after a long time of having no interactions - time and distance will change them. So before you engage in any interactions, make sure you do a profiling on them. Make yourself approachable and gauge their advancement towards your inquiries. Gradually inquire more but never interrogate. Get their updates but never invade their space. Once they break through your glass ceiling first, you carry on with your own crack on his ice.

Words are powers, always use them wisely.